"Speak Softly": The Amoeba Whisperer!

[GoatGal]

Dearest Wonka, Yes, it does make sense. ^^^

I am one of those people who finds it difficult to turn my back on anyone in need.

However--I have only ever done that at the expense of myself when my mother went into a serious depression and was suicidal. I did everything I could to keep her safe, get her treatment, and drag her to appointments myself. I am glad I did it.

She's had many great years and at 87, she's still kicking ass and taking names.
She would have been dead.

Also, she was in no frame of mind to make decisions for herself. She was out of her mind... it was bad.

It was very hard on me, but I wouldn't change a thing.

So I think you have to help people who need your help, but it's important to know where to draw the line.

Now with my sitch with GUBU the Amoeba, my mother knows I can't be there for her on the level that I have been.
I felt guilty about that at first, but I don't any longer.

I have two siblings who could step up, but they have chosen not to.

That's on them.

But as for GUBU, I don't feel responsible for him.

He's making some terrible mistakes and is his judgement is impaired.
He will have to live with those mistakes.
My job is only to limit the damage TO ME and my "kids".
Period.

I never thought I caused this, although some have suggested that I must own 50% of his cheating/MLC situation.

I have to disagree. I have my own stuff, sure. But he made his choices. Those are 100% on him.

All I can do is influence GUBU with positive reinforcement and the occasional Truth Dart.

Meanwhile, it's busy in this laboratory... his experiment is just one of many.


(I've heard Amoebas will die if they dry out. Do you think this is true? )

---GGG