Update... I have decided to use Starsky approach with my Sit. I laid it out to my W that the affair will be exposed. I will file the d. She lost my respect and trust. No more Mr. Pleaser guy for her. Going to get my own life together and stronger with my kids. I learned about boundaries. I drew the circle (boundry) around me. She's not included and I am accepting it. The lies and deceit she has been giving me everyday is unbearable painful. Even today when I was laying it all out, she says that she has not spoken to him. A plain straight out lie in front of my face because I heard them and phone records show she talked to him for over an hour yesterday. It's just too much to bear and that's why I have decided to choose this path now. She shed tears as i was calmly telling her. It didnt phase me because i cared but i do t care anymore. I feel now that it has come down to The last resort of The last resort. It's up to her to choose her path. I'm done.
