1) Tell him today that I would like to talk to him but not on business time. (This shows boundaries & that business is during business time & personal is on personal time)
2) Calling/texting him & saying: I've been thinking about the family party. You know I'd want to go, but I don't think its a good idea for me to go, right now AND because you said 3 weeks ago that you are concerned that people would think we are back together.
OR
3) Im not sure about going on Saturday because of what "you" said... when he asks... then tell him. And also say, "why is it ok to let family think we are friends, when we are not"....
No, no and no.
they're all manipulative, and designed to make him feel guilty, and to reiterate that you still want a relationship, and to insinuate that you think he's going to eventually change his mind or come to his senses.
"right now" - stop saying and thinking "right now". this indicates you're still gripping that rope.
if you dont want to go to the party, all you need to say is "thanks for the invite, but i cant make it" and then leave it at that.
but instead you're insisting on using it as an excuse to get into R talk.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
