mdu, you had that epiphany on your own without anyone even chiming in:
Tonight is a night to listen. Work on your reactions. You can and WILL blow your OWN mind tonight with how you handle this. I'm creating that for you.
The decisions will be made later with the information you receive tonight. And if a discussion comes up about a solution, think: WE ARE A TEAM. Don't deny your H the dignity of his own struggle. (That's a nicer way of saying "let him clean up his own mess.)
And I'm in total agreement with Wonka that you want your H home because he wants to be there ... and you're both ready. A dear Buddhist friend reminds me: "Nothing urgent is important. And nothing important is urgent."
Remember: you and your H are a TEAM. You're wearing the jersey. You're the one.
Thinking of you often and much today.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
