You framed the question of should you go or not with only two choices, both of which are about what HE will think about YOU. That is why people say you are obsessed with him and have NOT dropped the rope actually.

The question you should be asking yourself is this one:

Do I want to see and spend some time with these people who going forward are probably going to be less a part of my future life than they were before? Or do I not really feel like seeing and spending time with them right now?

And if you were to frame it around him and what he thinks, it would look like this:

If I go, he will think I want to spend some time with those people. If I do not go, he will think I do not want to spend some time with those people. And who cares what he thinks about that?

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.