This is a saga that has passed its expiration date.
I am wondering if you can ask your L if you can compel XH to pay for your legal costs as he's conjuring up phantom legal cases against you. There has to be some bite to this process for XH.
We'd be interested in hearing what your L has to say in response to your concerns.
As for XH's L, don't they ever get a sense that he's not right in the head??
Is F. Lee Bailey still practicing law? How about Gregory Peck?
I will throw in my very last dollar Bea to shut this guy down.
But, seriously, what about hiring a really aggressive attorney to put an end to all this? Is that possible or am I just thinking with my wishful brain cells?
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
I'm curious. Has an MLC-er, known from the boards, ever married the OW/OM and THEN come to their senses?? Does that happen? I mean can they stay in the fog until they awaken to find they are actually married to some ridiculous person they would never have chosen otherwise?
Sorry to hi-jack Bea...It just seems like your Ex's marriage and his most recent "episode" into Hell coincide. Like he is still struggling with the choices he made/makes. But, he can't seem to stop???
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Heather, if my xh could ever admit he had made a mistake the whole house of cards would come crashing down. I believe (although I do not know for sure of course) that his marriage to OW2 is partly to get his own way about bringing her to my son's wedding (that is son's view view) and partly to reassure himself he did the right thing in leaving his family 'Look I am OK I have a new marriage, Everything is OK you guys'
He isn't capable of real affection or thinking of another person right now, if the way he continues to behave towards me and his children is any guide. Honestly I do wonder if he has passed the shallow waters of MLC insanity and is out there - heading towards the shoals of a total breakdown. Who knows?
Hi Bea, Who marries these crazy guys anyway? I mean your XH is such an a$$, what exactly do these women see in him? If I was 'dating" someone who could do the things to their ex that he is doing, I for sure would stop and think twice and certainly wouldn't marry them!
I do understand about not being wrong about anything! My W refuses to admit that she could be wrong even about little things when it comes to me. She lets her father tell her what to do and how to live her life and how she should do this or that differently but with me and the kids no way! I guess we just must be so bad in their heads to justify what they have done and are still doing. He does seem about ready to have that total breakdown. Which again begs the question..who marries someone like that??
This may sound cold and I'm going to say it anyway. There are just many desperate and damaged people on the world who think attention from anyone is a good thing. 2 desperate peeps can equal a couple.
You are so right, Bea. If your h admits he is wrong about something, then potentially he could be wrong about so much more. And what would that mean? So, these people just keep trudging on oblivious to anyone but themselves. My h did finally concede as he was moving out that (and this is a direct quote) " he *may* have a shortcoming ." I love a good laugh :-)
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3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
We used to have a good natured family game, (it can get vicious) in which you think up the least likely thing that a family member would say. Even before MLC the one we all coined for my xh was 'I could be wrong about this . . . . '
Please don't tell me...is she Russian? I know a guy I used to work with that left his W and kids to hook up with some Russian woman he met online! It didn't last very long and after she moved in to a 50/50 state she d him and took half of everything! Turns out this is an industry over there!
