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Approx 4 weeks ago, I convinced myself to drop the rope... to do things that was in line with giving up. I was doing well with it. I was beginning to say NO to him & was starting to truly separate myself from him. AS much as I don't really want to.. I had to ... for my health & sanity.

This offer for family visit is confusing me. Yes, I want to go. Yes, I can go and just BE with his family. Not him.

Some of you suggest that I can go, if I can leave him alone. Yes, I can do this... BUT, is that the only term/condition you suggest I go?... Is there a benefit to me?... if I go? IF I go, does this mean that I am no longer dropping the rope? Letting go? Giving up?


M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)