"Speak Softly" The MLC Version

[Wonka]

GGG,

Now that you've got a night's sleep and drank some of the cap with Cadet, I hope you now can see the funny side of H's profile as an observer.

Sort of like a teenager trying on different personas like one would try on new clothes in a fitting room.

[Cadet]

Thanks, Cadet.

I miss you over here in MLC land! You were like a port in a storm for me and helped me so much.
I appreciate your visits whenever they come.

I am still around and keep checking in on you.
Although I do GAL from time to time.....

If you were here, I'd make you a cappuccino...

Hmmm if I liked cappuccino that would be good.

You are in good hands here in MLC land,
there is still lots to learn and
I have good faith that you will be fine!

[Georgiabelle]

[quote=Cadet]GG

Here is the thing that is hard to accept.

All of our marriages are over at Bomb Drop.

Most of us don't understand that but it is really true.

^^^^^^^^

So true, Cadet and very challenging to comprehend initially.

[Wonka]

Hey Cadet,

Weren't you fingering me about the bright colored STFU duct tape??! Watcha talkin' bout?!

[Cadet]

Hey Cadet,

Weren't you fingering me about the bright colored STFU duct tape??! Watcha talkin' bout?!

HUH? If you cant hear me I am wearing some blue tape right now!

[GoatGal]

Heather, you're absolutely right. ^^^^^


It does feel like a rejection because he's got a wonderful woman, who, deep down, still loves him, and has all the qualities he listed!

And conveniently, we're already married!

*sigh*

But I know this is not about me.

If I actually put a truthful profile for myself on that dating site, with another name, he'd be all over it like white on rice.

It's all the dang water under the bridge. I know who he is, and he can't hide that from me.


And if he met me today, without all the messy history, I know he'd like me and be attracted to me.
I'm not sure if I would feel the same about him since he gives off such a crawly vibe these days...

I don't know if I'd be attracted to him meeting him with fresh eyes, in terms of his appearance.
To me, he's every inch his age these days. This experience has aged him for sure.
I'm sure he could still pull off that superficial charm, in short bursts.



Funny, there's a song I play when DJing from the 1920's. "Mama's Grown Young"
It goes:

"Mama's grown young, Papa's grown old,
Mama runs hot, Papa runs cold,
Mama gets younger, Papa gets older each day.
and ............
"Mama's got a brand-new bob that's nifty young and sweet,
Papa's got a scraggly beard that looks like shredded wheat............
Mama's at nightclubs shaking her hips--Papa shakes too--He's blue in the lips...."

You get the idea.


And yes, I process verbally/by writing.
I hope it's not annoying to you guys; it's how I get clarity.
I have to get out my thoughts and once I do that, I can let them go.

But this is interesting as per my "experiment".
It is more information to put in my report. The amoeba has moved into uncharted territory...

My mantra today is: "It's REPLAY, Baby!!!!"

And:
"Pull yourself together! You're GOAT GAL!!!!!"
(With Gumby qualities. )

2 x 4 WHACK to the noggin!

[GoatGal]

I'm so glad to spend a morning with my DBing pals.

I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!


So ix-nay on the appuccino-cay, let me know what I can substitute.

[LoisB]

It does feel like a rejection because he's got a wonderful woman, who, deep down, still loves him, and has all the qualities he listed!

GGG, in my experience, teenage boys very rarely have the maturity and self-control to even recognize the best match for a mature, adult, responsible, fun, lasting marriage...that's why so few teenagers are married. IMO

You know what his problem issss????? It's like the phrase from the Breakfast Club..."Chicks can't hold dey smoke! That's the problem."

He couldn't HANDLE a mature relationship right now...thus, he is avoiding the one he has. More fun to have teenage fantasies.

Use the time he's given you wisely to see what issues you have to deal with...They ALLLLLL come up when we've been abandoned. Every ancient insecurity and feelings of past rejections...they all come bubbling to the surface. Pay attention to them while they are out in the open and look at them. You may find, at the end of the day, he isn't nothin like what our authentic self would settle for. Poor guy. Poor, sad, lying, cheatin, weasel with sex issues.