Thanks for your opinion Gabby. Yes, I have GREAT fears... I need to do what is right for ME... not sure what that is, because I am still focused on his response. I fear either yes or no.

You are right.... I cannot accept that he doesn't want a real rel'p. WTF does he WANT?

The responses... are created from me & agreed a good idea from my friend who is a life coach. What response do you feel is better?

Yes, he invites me to a family party... Yes, I CAN & have said I can go & make it about seeing his family. I would have a good time.... but, does this send the right message about Me? (that I am giving up & dropping the rope?)

Please recall that I am working really hard on letting go... dropping the rope. What does a person who is letting go, do?

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M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)