The morning sun is shining like a red rubber ball.

[LoisB]

Just thinking aloud...What if you asked J to pay for a counselor to help both kids digest all these changes? If you allow them to spend a week with OW, then J pays for the counseling to help them adjust to her heavy influence in your life. The kids would have a say then and someone, other than you, to vent with. And, if the counselor felt they were in jeopardy, they would have another advocate. I'd be careful to pick a decent child counselor though.

Wishing, you've gotten worked up about him "taking" the kids for more time before. I don't see that happening. Yes, this suckkks, and, yes, it's a nightmare, and, yes, you've really been through it and back and through it again...

I don't see him wanting your increasingly adolescent and angry son any more than he already does. Slow down, breathe and remember the ways God has taken care of you guys since this started. Remember when you were trapped in a house with J? Remember the insanity?

Things HAVE gotten better. You dealt with the other stuff and you will deal with this too.