FY, I like the title of your thread and I hope posters will read it and print off the 12 points. They are very good and actually fall within the DB principles that we talk about all of the time.
I'm glad your wife is starting to realize that her job is not worth the stress and hopefully will find something more meaningful for her in the near future.
Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.