She says she's conflicted (part 2)

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Thanks this is insightful.
I realized as I commented on her sister that I was being a dope. It was to late to take it back however.

It may seem like I am not learning, but I believe that from where I was right before the affair started to where I am now is a big difference. Even the relationship counselor has pointed this out.

One of my primary issues was I worked with an IC for almost a year, who listened to me complain and let me vent my frustration but never gave me any real advice.

The psychologist who was our marriage counselor was giving me advice and when I switched to her as did my wife I felt that I was being served much better.

She emailed me this after meeting with my WW yesterday.

"Self possession and self control are two of the primary attributes of manhood. She's noticing. Keep working on them, and don't blow it with impatience born of anxiety. Let someone else do that."

The someone else is the OM.

Thanks for following my thread.....I appreciate all everyone has done for me...I really believe I can win this......the change I need to make within myself is what I can win!