Im left here to still take care of all the deep emotional work, while he gets to focus his entire life on what he needs to make him happy!
Yes, it is the emotional work that they absolutely do not get. My xh's view is the (admittedly adult) kids are OK. But they weren't, for a long time particularly my youngest, but the others too. Their loving father turned into Mr MLC monster and abandoned them. This is now 'they abandoned me' in his mind. Really? How did we get to that one?
Yes, they now have great jobs and good relationships, and they hang out together a lot, but honestly I was continuously 'there' for them for several years.much more than if xh had either not left, or done so in a kind manner, so they could talk to him.
He still to this day doesn't understand why none of them want a relationship with him - he thinks it is them, and misguided loyalty to me. I am not sure it is possible for an emotionally normal person to relate to someone in MLC, which is why they end up with such strange people.
