trust your husband... he gave you this information knowing how you might react.
Hi mdu, been a while since I've had anything to add but I have been following and you've come a long way. I think this quote from figgeroni hits the nail on the head. You seem to post a lot without seeing what you're posting. By now, you KNOW that you flipping out is a deal breaker for him and he STILL came to you with this information. That's big! That's positive. See the positive, feel the positive and act positive.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014