1 step forward, 1000 steps back

[mdu]

"Oh, and even though I feel it'd be next to impossible for you to be happy if H stays at his job, I'd keep that talk in your back pocket for now. "

I think you may be right, Train. And it scares the poop outta me. Because I really feel unsure about H leaving his job. I mean if he quit immediately that would be a huge problem, we need his income to cover the mortgage. Not to mention the potential emotional consequences of him being unemployed (i.e., home alone all day, getting depressed and potentially resentful, etc.) I mean let's face it, unemployment can be very emotionally challenging -- as if we don't have enough emotional challenges to deal with right now! If he stays for some period of time and tries to secure something else before leaving that could easily take months (he has a high level job, not easy to find around here), so we'd still have to deal with her for some period of time. Also, he just got a huge opportunity at work so he'd be giving up a lot. I'm not saying he shouldn't be willing to do that but it does start to feel like a recipe for major resentment if I force his hand. It's really a tough, tough challenge and that's why I'm freaking out. I really can't see ANY good solution.