So let me get this straight .... I should not try to find out the status of the affair , because if i do she might find out i was snooping and then back to square one , and i might not like what i find out < correct ? But what if I find out something good ? Wouldnt that be beneficial to my well being and to the sitch ?


Me 45 W 45
Son 16 Son 14
Married 23 together 27
W threatened sep several times
W still at home
A discovered Mar 17 2014
A ended DEC 2 ( skeptical )