1 step forward, 1000 steps back

[mdu]

Thanks, Train. I think my plan is relatively simple at this point (although will be very challenging for me to execute).

First, I need to control my anger and emotions when I speak to H on Thursday. Not sure how I am going to get there but I'm working on it.

Second, I need to ask H two things:

“How do you feel about having her in the office?”
“What are your thoughts around what we can do about this situation?”

Then listen, validate and don’t react. Probably end the convo with something like “Ok, thanks for your thoughts, I need some time to think about things”

I think if he asks me anything, like my opinion on how to handle it, I need to deflect with something like “I really don’t know.”

And I think that’s about it for now.

The only additional thing I wonder if I should ask him first is if this latest development has changed his interest in reconciling or if that's what he still wants to work towards. And then let him know that I am hoping we can find a solution together

Thoughts?