"What are your plans to get grip on your trigger-fast angry responses?"
Honestly, at the moment, I haven't got a clue. All the things I've been taught would be useless. Generally the idea is to get AWAY from the troubling sitch until you can calm down. There is no getting away from this.
Mnuh...no...no. You're not getting off easy here. I'm holding your feet to the fire right there. You DO have control over how you react. It is ALL ON YOU.
Let me tell you about an actual experience IRL.
Back when I was in college, I lived in an co-ed dorm with co-ed on the same floor with boys in one wing and the girls in the other one.
My roommate and I were open about our sexual orientation. Remember this was right where the AIDS crisis was just starting to spread and the 80's wasn't a fun time for gays. We got all sorts of harassment from unknown individuals who scrawled some nasty stuff on our door and what not. I had my suspicions about who might be the instigators.
I didn't react angrily or lash out. What I did one day was to calmly walk to the other wing and knocked on the interlopers' door. Then I told the guy in a firm and calm voice that if he and his roommate didn't stop their activities, they would be reported to the Dean of Student Life.
Presto! All of the nasty stuff stopped immediately and we did not experience any more of silly, sophomoric antics from them or anyone else.
I used my head and took a firm control of my inner anger at their blatant homophobic actions toward me and my roommate.
You can do this, MDU. Yes, there is no escaping the OW move but face it head on like a grown-up that you really are.
