"What are your plans to get grip on your trigger-fast angry responses?"
Honestly, at the moment, I haven't got a clue. All the things I've been taught would be useless. Generally the idea is to get AWAY from the troubling sitch until you can calm down. There is no getting away from this.
"I would also ask H in a nonjudgemental way if he experienced any lingering feelings about the OW and if her move might stir them up."
Let's assume he says yes to this. Then what? What do I do with this info other than torture myself knowing it when they spend all day together in the office next week? I know I probably sound flip but I seriously don't understand how having this information will help me at all. I assume that it WILL stir up feelings for him. I can't imagine how it couldn't. Just a few days ago he told me he still thinks of her.
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
