#33: HOLDING my ground... my self value

[sandi2]

You can't do it MM. You can't help but have expectations! Your expectations jumped into high gear when he suggested you go.

I

asked if he was asking me to go with him? He said we could go together, and possibly ask my DD if she would be our designated driver.

See, you give yourself away. You immediately thought about wanting more from him. Which is good on one hand.........if you will tell him no thanks. But if you try to convince yourself you can go with zero expectations and keep your hopes from rising to the clouds........I think you will be deceiving yourself. Yes, you have to work with him every day. But being alone in a car ride can feel rather intimate, sometimes. Seeing his family again could stir old emotions. Then there's the ride back. I just don't think you are strong enough, yet. You need more time and growth under your belt before facing this level of testing.

I do think it could set you back. Why? B/c I don't think you can endure the trip and STFU. But you would be setting yourself up for failfure. Besides, look how he was careful to throw a couple of things in there so you couldn't claim it was a "date". He's a sly one.