I wanted to say, in response to your earlier posts, that it may just be that you're not in a place yet where you're ready to put the focus on yourself. If so, that's fine; I don't think you can force yourself there. In the meantime, it seems like you know (at least in theory) that trying to practice detachment, and to get a life, are the best means of not making anything worse. As you wrote on 7/10,
"There seems to be little i can do except detach and try to stay attractive to her." Add in getting a life, and I think you've got a solid foundation, the practice of which is hard enough as it is.
In the meantime, I don't think you can rely on her statements now in order to get an accurate read on what the problems were in the past. You mention that "Ive asked her and she said I did nothing... She said she just wasnt feelin it anymore . She loved me but wasnt in love with me." As others have said, this is classic WAW/MLC talk, and it is not a source of useful information for you.
Also, you're correct that "its pretty hard to be feeling it for me or still be in love with me when theres someone else in the Picture." But YOU cannot accomplish anything useful by trying to point that out to her, because as you also note, "she is in total fog."
So for now, it seems like it's a hard enough, but suitable task for you to focus, a day at a time, on practicing detachment and getting a life. These are incredibly difficult tasks on their own, but you can master them (even though you'll fall off the wagon, occasionally).
Once you do, maybe it will be easier for you to effectively turn the lens on yourself, in order to review your history together and find out what it is that you need to work on. Because in the long run, even if you can't (or decide you don't want to) repair this relationship, you want to avoid a repeat of the same behaviors, attitudes and interactions in any future relationships (yet another reason to avoid adding another one now, even though getting validation from someone else can *seem* like such a nice thing).
