Grumpy happens. You could be correct about the cause or not. Don’t over think, just work through grumpy then examine the cause.
Sounds like there are some unfulfilled expectations about her and yourself, acceptance of what is, as much as I struggle with it, have helped me. It is difficult to retrain ourselves away from old habits and that is what I find I must do.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill