adinva - I didn't answer your questions. My dad was controlling, would get white angry sometimes - I remember breaking a Rolling Stones record because he was so angry. He was a patriarch, bound to his work (and still is, at 85). But, he also took us skiing every year, hiking, bought a summer house we had fun at. He sent me poetry and life advice.
There is a saying in German that you have time for what you love. I offer my daughter my time, but she doesn't take it.
She, s20 and I used to go rail bicycling here - a fun day or weekend trip. We'd tent nearby, go swimming, eat camping food... My W would generally not go with us.
I don;t have the romance or charm or attractiveness my W does. I am not as self-assured or ambitious or artistically creative as my W. I wish you could meet me and experience my situation first hand, but I know that ain't the rules here.
