My H's MLC #2

[Ssarah]

So it looks like I should have gone nuts on him a long time ago because he finally spent some quality time with my daughter yesterday. I get a text midday that he will be relieving my babysitter and will be "home" until I get back from work. I came home and he was there. I did a few things and then was ready to put S1 to bed. Normally this is the time that he slithers out leaving D3 by herself in the family room while I'm up with S1. Last night, I put S1 to sleep go down and there H is cuddling on the couch with D3. I was surprised but didn't say anything. I get her dinner ready and normally (even a week ago) would ask if H wanted anything. This is another opportunity for him to run. He tells me no he's eating out and goes. This time I didn't ask hime anything. As I get something for myself H says that he's going to order something in and asked if I wanted anything. I tell him no, eat something and go up to my bedroom. The two of them ate together then his dinner came and my daughter ate some more with him. About 8:45pm I hear little feet coming towards my bedroom and hear H saying, go inside and tell mommy goodnight. He then went in with D3 and did the whole nighttime routine, getting her ready for bed, reading books and tucking her in. This was the first time in months, way before BD that he did that with D3. This used to be their sacred ritual and she missed it. He then came to my bedroom asked me something about D3, changed into sweats and went downstairs. An hour or 2 later he came back to my bedroom, told me he has the $ to pay my daughter's tuition (I've been asking for weeks and he kept saying he didn't have $) and that if it's okay he'd be staying in the guest room. I didn't say much too him, just that I didnt care what he did. He went down, turned all lights off and by 11pm, for the first time since before BD, didn't go out but instead went to bed.

Now I don't think he's a changed person. Do I think the same will happen tonight? No. But at least my daughter got one night with her daddy. One night of the old things they did.

As for me I'm trying to stay as dark as possible. Since Monday he has sent me 3 texts and I've responded to none. He just sent me one saying he'll be home to relieve the babysitter again "FYI" and I did not respond. I think I'm slowly understanding the distance I need to keep in my interactions with H and my availability. Like you said GoatGal, I think Monday did need to happen for me to let him know exaclty how I felt and to put that distance between us. Lets see how the rest of my week goes.