No, I can't handle it. They will work in the same building, on the same floor, possibly just feet away from each other. It's a SMALL company. So I guess we're back to job change as the only possibility. Which honestly, I think will push him right out the door. And maybe that's the way things should be. I don't know what to think or how I feel, honestly.
OK, then one option is you calmly tell him "I'm afraid that doesn't work for me. At all. Looks like we both have some big decisions to make."
The GOOD news is? You don't HAVE to take that approach. You need to think it through -- along with with what the alternative approach would be -- and you (with our help) get to calmly (do try to stay calm!) work out what the likely consequences of each would be. For YOU. For YOUR KIDS. And then YOU get to decide. No one is going to force you into something you don't want to do, and you know you'll get a ton of support here either way, mdu.
You may not be able to control the OUTCOMES, but you do get to be in charge of the DECISION, mdu. Maybe you can find some comfort in that.
