Reinforcements! Hallelujah! Hey, Starsky and Wonka!
Good job holding down the fort, Train! mdu (and the board in general) is lucky to have you!
My opinion probably wasn't going to do much in the way of lessening mdu's anxiety any, I'm afraid. I do think this is a really important crossroads for her and her husband, and how they BOTH handle it is going to be very telling.
Sorry for talking about you in the 3rd person, mdu. LOL -- just realized how that sounded. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!