Quote: She asked what she could do beyond being more affectionate and while my real desire is for her to have a stronger libido and want be a little more lusty. She simply asked me to write a list of what my expectations and desires are. I think her goal will be to "fake it 'til she makes it".
Dave, your posts sound as if you could have been my H a few months back to the T. Try extremely hard to stop analysing - I had the same *fear* of following any exercises a third party might offer. I even recall asking my H for a list! Listen... I said it matter-of-factly (like an xmas list), however, inside I was saying it fesiciously. In my mind, I WAS making progress/baby steps working toward being sexual again. For him to give me any indication that this wasn't enough, made me see red and feel misunderstood, unappreciated and turned off!! I believe she was asking you what she needs to do to show you that she loves you without having sex for the time being... while she's working on herself. Surely, her having a stronger libido and being more lusty can't be the ONLY indicators for you that she loves you? Those would be the ultimate goal... She wants and needs to know how she can show you that she is progressing and ensure you feel loved UNTIL she's sexual again. Make sense?
Quote: I don't even care about myself when it comes to sex. I absolutely love the "sensations" of taking care of her orally and she seems to love it too...I always make it worth her while before I consider myself. The eroticism and her desire for me when doing it is the best. I just can't relate why she doesn't take advantage of this more often. She really likes it when we do it.
Does she have a body image problem? Does she feel sexy and/or happy with her appearance?
Try extremely hard to stop analysing - I had the same *fear* of following any exercises a third party might offer. I even recall asking my H for a list! 
Listen... I said it matter-of-factly (like an xmas list), however, inside I was saying it fesiciously. 
In my mind, I WAS making progress/baby steps working toward being sexual again. For him to give me any indication that this wasn't enough, made me see red and feel misunderstood, unappreciated and turned off!! 
I believe she was asking you what she needs to do to show you that she loves you without having sex for the time being... while she's working on herself. Surely, her having a stronger libido and being more lusty can't be the ONLY indicators for you that she loves you? Those would be the ultimate goal... She wants and needs to know how she can show you that she is progressing and ensure you feel loved UNTIL she's sexual again. Make sense?