Are we married to the same woman? That's it, the poor lady is wore out from taking care of both of us! No, seriously, everything you said is exactly the same in my situation. Does your wife also see sex as you wanting to get your rocks off, rather then seeking to have an incredible moment of intimacy where you seek to please her? Many women, my wife included, see sex as a physical act, they just don't get the emotional connection. They also see it as us guys wanting to get off, they don't understand that the greateset pleasure us guys get is in driving THEM nuts. Your wife and my wife sound so similar, they love the sex when they have it, they just never DESIRE or think of it. My wife also sees it as being a lot of work for the brief pleasure at the end. And when I give her head, I do literally have to hold on for dear life. And yet she does not seek this pleasure, such a great mystery. I personally would love to give my wife head at least once everyday, even if their is no sex in return for me. I would tak sex twice a week if she would aloow me to service her daily. That is how much I love to please here sexually.
I think I see what is part of the problem here, I see physical closeness as intimacy (which it is) and she sees intimacy as mental closeness (which it also is). I will bet your wife is similar.
Was your wife ever HD during your relationship? My wife was HD for the first 4 years that I knew her, and when the first child was born, her MOMMY mode took over, and the sex dropped off dramatically and has never come back in 13 years. Apparently many women can not have a MOMMY mode and a LOVER mode at the same time, so they let the LOVER mode slide and even go away. They become fixated on the MOMMY mode. They don't seem to relaize that they are to be LOVERS FIRST and MOMMYS second. The best thing that mothers can do for their children is be their husbands lover. Amazing how many women DON'T understand this very basic concept.
By the way, did you go for it. I'm not sure what I would have done. If you did, do not feel any regret. LD women have to expect that husbands can not be celibate forever!
