You seem busy working on yourself, and it's good that you are addressing the co-dependency. But you made another statement I don't understand.

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I worry that me being independent will not want her.


It seems to tie in with that statement you made about detaching and concerned you wouldn't want her then. Is this the co-dependency talking here?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!