She says she's conflicted (part 2)

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I am in such a weird place.

I keep feeling that OM is playing me as maybe is the WW. That they really want me and expect me to go nutso and kick her out and file.
(Legally I can not kick her out)

As much as people claim that by not doing this I am enabling her affair, I feel that by doing it I am going to end up divorced.


It's just that what reassurances do I have that they won't run off to a no-tell motel?

Can I say something like :

If you end up in bed with him you need to call me and tell me to file for divorce we are done?