Thanks for this post it is very very enlightening to me.
This morning my sister in law texted a cell phone we just keep as a back up. The wife was demanding that it was my phone her comment was who's that your new girlfriend. I told her it was not my phone and I have no girlfriend.
Funny she is having an affair but I am being checked up on.
Anyhow it was her sister asking how she and the boys were. I told my wife that I get offended that her sister acts as if I am out of the picture already. My wife got very defensive and accused me of starting. When I told her I was hurt she said that I should ignore her sister.
Then the WAW got all up in my face about the fact that everyone knows about her affair even her cousins..that her sister is upset that someone told her cousins via email. It was not me so I don't get this. She said to me if you want us to get back together you should never have told a soul.
I said it's interesting how people in an affair don't want anyone to know...( would this be a controlling conversation?)
In addition I was thinking about how everyone she visited or stayed with with OM knows she is married as a matter of fact he has lost a lot of friends over the fact that he is with a married woman ( I think they all know he has done this before), So how come that's alright?
I also have been on my best behavior and tried to avoid anything about this weekend etc.
I just can not believe that she thinks her behavior is acceptable for my s16.
