Bea, I agree w/you 100% on your posting. They do wear a lot of masks and it gets tiresome after awhile. The masks change from situation to situation and who they are around at the time.
They don't understand why we don't want to be friends w/them and yes, had things been done differently and we had been treated like a fellow member of the human race, maybe, just maybe, we could have been "distant" friends. MLC divorces go down very differently from regular divorces because of the "highly charged emotional" turmoil that the MLCer experiences throughout their crises. Such a shame, so much damage, burned bridges, etc. and yet, they can't understand why we tend to back up from friendships. Of course, friendship to them is entirely different than what we would view as friendship...but that's another story.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
