#41. Soul cleansing and day to day stuff

[kat727]

It seems that struggles never stop whether we are in a relationship or not, whether we have kids or not, just because we are human beings.

I have had mornings where I get slowed down and start to get agitated and then I see a cardinal. I wouldn't have seen it had I had not gotten slowed down. So I think today should be a reminder: slow down. Appreciate the moment.

As for struggles. They may seem huge now but again slow down, take some deep breaths. Think of solutions.

Many of us are thinking about how much control we have in our older children's lives. Maybe it is because I have 4 at home but I think there comes a time to hand them the broom and dustpan and let them clean up their mess. You all know how upset I was last summer around this time. Looking back, I wanted to control both S18, his girlfriend and the situation. I did want to fix everything for me.

We see our kids as an extension of ourselves. They act out, misbehave and all of a sudden I must be an awful parent. I think though, it is the parent that just lets it go that is not actively parenting. We want the best for them and get upset when they don't show the same intensity.

They just don't see the same things as important that we do. You know your child. Hand the reigns over when they are personally ready. No two kids are the same, so it isn't the age that makes the determination. It is so hard letting them go, wondering if you have done enough, but the secret is, just you being there to lend a hand if they need it, is what they want. Time to let them drive and you to be the passenger.

Blessings, kat