Really bea? He's on round #2 with another woman???? Lord, these MLCer's just keep rolling don't they?
They suggested you hang out with them? Wow! I just find that so inappropriate.
I was watching Iynala Fix my life yesterday. There was a couple that had lived for 20 years with alot of lies and deception. The husband finally came out and said that he never wanted to marry her in the first place, but he did out of wanting to feel normal.
I remember my X telling me through bomb drop that he only married me because he thought it was the right thing to do at the time, but had we chose to wait another year, we wouldn't have gotten married at all.
When the husband was telling his wife this, I felt for her so much because she had been through what I had! Severe rejection, and a man that was still there, but not there, giving her mixed signals for many years! But he at least gave her THE TRUTH. The husband was requesting his wife's friendship after 20 years of infidelity, lies, and deception.
It goes without saying.... SHE WAS PISSED and didn't want his friendship. That helped me out too because XH wanted friendship with me and I think he still does.I find that the tables have turned. He's extra chatty and nice to me, while Im keeping communication down to one or two words and my distance.
I really look back and feel that had XH been able to be honest with me about his true feelings all along, that this whole ordeal wouldn't have been so traumatic for me. My XH just did his best to keep it short, simple, without any true communication of what really is going on, and move on with the expectations we were all happy for the ride and we will sweep it all under the rug like we do everything else that's too intense for him emotionally.
Well ask his daughter just how well that works!
Iynala, says that when a woman is rejected by a man in such a fashion is cuts deep, down to the heart and the soul. It was so nice to be validated by that, because that's how I felt, and I guess I still do!
When a man does that, and they fully know what they've done to you, why do they still try and be friends? Is it out of guilt? Is it some sort of self satisfying action to make them feel that even though the hurt you in the most powerful way, that if they try and be your friend, it makes up for all the hurt they've done?
