So I tried to push us going good to counseling and she said she didn't want to go because she didn't trust me and that she wants her happiness and why should she have to give up her happiness to keep a relationship together.
I heard that line too buddy and it seems to be par of the script. My WAW is also in MLC - mid life crisis...and she has all the signs yours has ..not in love for past 4 years...partying every night...found a journal with all the lust she was having for other guys...I am the reason for her woe. A WAW/MLC will rewrite your marriage history in complete negatives hence the " i only settled for you 8 years ago"
Now having said that you need to GAL...find somethings to keep you sane and make you happy...that attractive side she loves about you and you have some serious 180s to do...eatting humble pie and validating her for one thing. Why stay in a M with an arrogant son of a B? Sounds like she hasnt felt safe in a long time if all the arguments end with her being wrong. Work through what needs to be changed in all your shortfalls...trust me I have plenty of work for the next ten years...and that may mean IC...no it will mean IC....you just need to find out how to fix yourself to be the man she would be a fool to leave. Come here often for support, don't even confide much in mom or family/friends...they can't be very objective about this. Listen to the vets here and find the threads where there is hope...there are those who restored their M...you'll need their stories to help propel you forward. Ok deep breaths. read the DB book! Gal! Detach and believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see! Expect nothing from her! If I can do this you can do this. It ain't over till its over. Cheers bro
Me 42 W:35 M: 14yrs T:15yrs D: 8yrs D:6yrs S:3yrs BD: "I want a D"09/03/14 Sep: 30/06/14
Don't give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.
