Wife wants to leave #2

[Riley]

Update 7/15

1 W now considering to live with the woman who married us. I think this is a bad idea if this M ends, I think that speaks for itself. W's mother wont let her stay there as their R is ruined by W's bipolar issues. The woman who married us lives a few miles from MIL. The leave date is the 12th of August, adjusted from having my Jeep to drive back starting on the 4th of August.

Also, W will not have any vehicle to get to work/school, not sure she has any plan or plans to think, at all. School is a huge issue W had and she wants to pursue and finish her degree.

2 After talking to brother in law (BIL), this is a known pattern that W goes through. This particular "down" is on the extreme side on the see-saw. BIL has also stated that in his opinion, W just wants to leave Cali and head back to NC. Also he thinks that if W wanted a D she would have done so. I don't see this as true evidence based on W's lack of any sense ATM.

3 I am continuing to see my IC and I am making good progress. My C sees that I really do care for my W and am making positive, logical efforts to improve my sitch.

4 I have made no request to have my Jeep back yet. Texts between W and I suggest she is well aware that W is not taking it across the country. Additionally, I am not responding when W is blaming me for her problems. When I do respond to requests she has I am up front about it and cordial.

5 W has not filed a D response back to me yet.

6 I had a bad dream last night, from what I can remember it was my W saying mean things to me and I felt bad. Maybe there is some value, I'll let the experts chime in on that. This is important to note because I never remember my dreams.

7 I make a habit of praying daily for Guidance and Strength both for myself and for my W during this difficult time.


Mentally I'm in a better spot, I still have downs but their duration is decreasing and same with the emotional impact on me. Physically I am still hitting the gym and I am making progress which helps my mood and eats up my free time. I have received a billet promotion at work (looks good towards a pay promotion, but same pay). I like it well enough and I have more power to do things which is fun at times.