I'm going through the goal setting chapter in DB. I'm struggling with this, even though I know stuff that I want to change, I would like H to add to what his perception of me should change. H won't tell me any reason why he wants out...ILYBNILWY, I'm unhappy and I don't find you attractive. When I've asked why, his response is " I knew you were going to ask that" then he shuts down.
Do not ask him this. DB and making the changes are for you, not for him. Besides, he is most likely not going to give you a straight answer, and any efforts you do make, he will see as simply an attempt to win him back. You need to identify things you can change about yourself, and do them. He will notice. It might take a little time, but he will. And when he does, it will mean a whole lot more than if you ask him, he tells you, then you do it.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
