My confusing story

[Atsbaby]

Thanks for the advice! I noticed a few months ago that H was acting very bully like, towards me and the kids. I put him in his place over a comment he made to our S but I've not stood up to him for myself. I guess that is one of my own issues. I never want to fight with him, so I let it go.

I'm going through the goal setting chapter in DB. I'm struggling with this, even though I know stuff that I want to change, I would like H to add to what his perception of me should change. H won't tell me any reason why he wants out...ILYBNILWY, I'm unhappy and I don't find you attractive. When I've asked why, his response is " I knew you were going to ask that" then he shuts down.

H is the only person that I struggle with in patience. Ironically, I'm a behavior coach for kids and understand a lot of the things he's doing. I'm just too emotionally involved!