Wife Wants Separation, I Don't.

[rayzzz]

I have just separated Rion and yes two weeks into it is a hell I never want to wish on anyone. Having said this it is a perfect opportunity for me to DB "go dark" and have cut off as much contact as possible sans the new hated kid swapping times. Ugh. We all know that pain that really is worse than death but you walk thru this and you become better for yourself and for her...

The gift of separation is you give her that space, respecting her (this speaks to her whether she admits it or not) and she gets a chance to miss you ...and she surely will as a single mom in more ways than just kids. The NC means I initiate nothing and so she feels it from being best friend wife to "just a neighbour" I am cheerful but cordial with.

Read the 37 rules read DB & DR, find your support here almost exclusively...friends and family just aren't the best at "advice and comfort" at this point. GAL and find stuff to make you happy and use this time to work on yourself so that when she does see you she sees what a better man you have become....be the man only a fool would leave is often quoted here.Quote from my WAW:
"Why are you so upbeat and happy all the time? What has gotten into you doing Qigong? Ultimate frisbee?" the new confidence I have is impacting her and my GALs....you just do the 4Cs instead of begging and whining and crying...it does work like magic.

Above all my biggest separation lesson? keep busy! The gym is my new best friend. My goto place when the loneliness kills me. My spiritual mom said " a broken heart will heal faster if you are looking after yourself physically" so work out your grief any way you can. being alone in the house [censored]! so fill your time with new experiences to better you and give life to your PMA.
People here have made it back to M....not easily and its still work but they are back in their M. Find their threads and learn from the vets here...Sandi2 comes to mind.
And above all its so early in the game for you and me...do not lose hope...fight, battle and win back your beauty. Rooting for you