How can I be the better choice?

[pilot]

Wrong attitude. You need to rebuild your self esteem first. You need to believe you are a great catch for your W or she never will. She married you so something about you is attractive to her. Forget physical appearances because they all fade. She knows it. Stop thinking about the other guy as a god. The way you described him almost had me wanting to date him and I'm not gay. Trust me, his farts stink just as bad as everyone else's.

Your W is in a fog and in the honeymoon stage of a relationship with this guy. Sooner or later he will show traits which are going to annoy her and she will annoy him. At that point she realizes the grass is not always greener.

Read DB and DR and follow the steps. They work! And if your M cannot be saved you will come out of this as a better person for your next relationship

Good luck!