I wanted to discuss the topic of mind reading.

I have seen this mentioned often and had some thoughts and views of my own...

I believe most anything can be taken to an extreme... For example an easy going person can actually go so far in that extreme that deadlines and responsibilities aren't a big deal..
However a disciplined person can end up being so structured they can't even go on a vacation without having every second planned to the minute...


That is what I also see with the mind reading comments to various posters caught in despair....

Couldn't telling someone they are mind reading also be called mind reading?

If your spouse is out until 4:00 a.m., and losing weight, taking "trips to visit old friends" and acting like they don't want much to do with you... I don't think it is mind reading to question whether they are having an affair...

Maybe it really isn't mind reading at all... Maybe it is your GUT telling you something. I am sure many of you can relate when I mention "gut".. Your gut is telling you something...

Then you are told you are mind reading. You then tell yourself, "yes I am mind reading and I shouldn't do that."

You then feel a sense of relief believing that if you are mind reading that this means they aren't having an affair. (or whatever the mind reading subject is)

However, just because you say you aren't mind reading doesn't actually mean they are not having an affair. Sometimes we are hoping they aren't doing what we think our mind (gut? intuition?) reading is telling us they ARE doing. This could be just another way to say that when someone says we are mind reading we are hoping that means that we are wrong in the mind reading (or is it your gut telling you something?).......

But what about that "gut" feeling.. That feeling that deep down you know that you know, but you are having a hard time admitting that you know? How many times have we told ourselves "I should have followed my gut feeling?"

I believe that sometimes mind reading can also be quite useful and a good part of a relationship...

Do I ask my spouse what they want for their Birthday?
What if they are the type of spouse that feels like.."if I have to tell you what to do, then it isn't the same"..

It seems that mind reading in this case would be a benefit..
If I get my spouse a gift that I believe they would like and cherish and they didn't have to tell me or give me a hint, then I think that is GOOD for a relationship.

If my spouse comes home in a bad mood and they aren't the type that wants to "chat" when in a bad mood... Isn't it wise to learn how to "read" their moods?.. Yes, we could be wrong and think the mood is because of work, or because of their being tired or whatever, when actually they are just a grouch wink .. But isn't the main thing that you sometimes MUST take a gamble that mind reading is the CORRECT thing in some instances.....?????

Now, if I make plans to take a trip and don't discuss it with my spouse and then tell myself that I know they want to go to
Mexico on September 12th because they once told me they want to go to Mexico someday... I think that would border on the extreme of taking it too far....


So, I say that we need to be wary of just accepting that when someone says we are mind reading that it is a negative and that just because they tell us that we just accept it.Again, isn't it mind reading to tell someone they are mind reading?

I think we should take their comment into consideration....
Ask yourself? Am I mind reading or is my "gut" telling me something to get my mind and heart in sync?.. What is my gut telling me? Deep down..

Most anything can be taken to an extreme. I believe that sometimes "mind reading" can be a good thing. It can also be a bad thing. It can also be that we are NOT mind reading, but that our gut is talking to us deep within....

Just food for thought.