Voldy is over functioning. She's trying to reduce her own anxiety by being on top of D20's situation. Again, there's a fine line between supporting and over functioning. I'm guilty of this myself in many areas of my life. I'm trying not to be looking for jobs for D20 or making a ton of suggestions. I don't want her responsibility to become my responsibility. But, of course, Voldy is projecting that D20 will be doing nothing for years and needs to be constantly monitored. D20 also knows that Mom is Asian and it is very hard for an Asian Mom to accept ("what will I tell my friends) that her daughter is not in university. So she cuts Mom some slack and Voldy, to her credit, recognizes her Asian tendency (lol) and does discuss it with us. But, it's not all about Voldy and her face and anxiety...Voldy has a tough time seeing that.
