She says she's conflicted (part 2)

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"My issue is I get verbally agressive instead of staying calm.
Then I get on her too. This is where I need coaching..on keeping my mouth shut."

So what are you doing to get that fixed? I don't see that you've gone to counseling for yourself to get your control issues under control.

Actually my IC and The MC have started working on this with me.

What I don't understand right now is that my WAW runs not and cold with me constantly lately.

I can not figure out my next move when it comes to her actions.

For example last night she pushes me away from cuddling with her and starts an argument ( I did not respond) then this morning she's all cuddled.

Before I left for work we had a discussion...she asked what I would do if she decided that OM was her man...not me...after she tells me that she still has questions about her relationship with OM.

I feel like I am being manipulated...that she does not want to let me go, but can't see a future with out OM.