1 step forward, 1000 steps back

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First, I am going to suggest to him that I would like to email the transparency plan to him and make a plan to discuss it if there are any questions about it in a couple days. So first I want his agreement on this approach so I don't just spring it on him. Then the email will be very straight forward about what I need and include some comments around what we already discussed and I believe agreed to. Something like:

Following is what I need to begin feeling safe in the marriage and to begin rebuilding trust:

• Absolutely no contact with the other woman ever again. If there ever is any contact, even if initiated by her, I need you to let me know immediately so we can deal with it together. This includes work related contact. Agreed 7/10: If she reaches out to H will ask her to never directly contact him again. If it is a work related issue he will direct her to one of his employees.
• Totally transparency regarding your whereabouts and who you are with
• Total transparency with all electronic communications including:
o List of all contacts in your phone and who they are
o List of all communication apps on phone and computer (facebook, snapchat, email, etc) and all passwords
o Freedom to review your phone or computer and anything on it at any time