"Here I am starting to notice a pattern. When you are anxious, you tend to want to push the transparency plan on H. Hmmmm...am I warm here? If yes, I'd suggest that you hold off on the plan for the time being."
Hmm...I can see where you'd think that but I'm not so sure this time. H has been asking about it for weeks now and I've sort of been avoiding sharing more of it because I am so afraid that he will not agree to it So I don't think this go around I'm pushing it due to anxiety. If anything, I've been avoiding it due to anxiety. We had agreed last week that we would discuss it further this week, I feel like if I don't address it then I'd be avoiding. And I know he is waiting for me to initiate further discussion because last week I specifically said to him that I needed a break from the heavy stuff. We had previously agreed that if anyone needs a break then it's their job to come back to initiate further discussion when they are ready.
My plan for the transparency plan is to email it to him and then agree to discuss it in a few days. That way we hopefully can mitigate any strong immediate reactions (on both sides).
What do you think with that added info?
M: 42 H: 43 M: 8 years S7 and D4 H has D19 and S25 from previous M Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA 1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail 2nd separation: 5/1/14
