Is the boundary somewhere around WHAT you will financially support? For instance, you'll make sure the lights are kept on and there's food in the fridge but not going to be giving her spending money to go out to bars with friends.

Obviously up to you but that was what came to mind for me so I thought I'd toss out there..

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14