advice needed - please help

[stacey9]

Thank you so much Mr Bond and Maybell for your kind words. I am just losing hope as the days are going by and I see his R with OW getting stronger. Our M was happy and I have loads of great Christmas and holiday memories I will treasure, but even the day to day stuff was good,we got on well, laughed at the same things, walked together in the evenings. But his view on the M is now so different from mine.

DB arrived yesterday, but I haven't read it yet. Looking back I can see I had jealousy issues - H is a very attractive guy and is never short of female attention. He has not had an A to my knowledge, but there have been several indiscretions over the years - flirtations that went a bit too far, and I hated that. So whenever he said he was going out with the boys, an arguement started but we always made up. Up until last year that is. I would not back down and when I eventually did it was too late - he had distanced himself from me and appeared to have moved on. That's when the "I've not been happy for years" started.

If I could go back I would have handled things a lot differently - I can see now that by stopping someone from doing something they want to do will only make them want it more. I wish I'd came across these forums before all our problems started! I would do anything to have him back, and of course I would not try and stop him going out with friends and doing what he wanted.

I feel this should have been our time, the kids are older we could have been planning things together but instead he seems to be happy with OW. And it's killing me.

Does anybody know if there is anything I can do to change things, has anybody been in a similar sitch to mine and turned things around? Now he appears to be not speaking to me at all I just don't know what to do.

Thanks so much
Stacey xx