Ok, so after sleeping on it and getting the emotion out of the way, I think I get it. The rule actually worked.

1. H noticed I did not initiate conversation, which caused him to have an emotional reaction ( even tho it was neg)
2. H noticed that I wasn't pursuing him like I have been
3. In his eyes, I'm moving forward and acting as if

Man detaching is hard! I can see now why I can read others posts and know what to do in their situation because I'm not emotional in their lives!

Atsbaby
M:36 H:35
T: 19 M:12
S:11
D:9
BD: 5/4/14
Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her
8/19 admits OW
8/22/14 files D w/o telling me
9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile