Help needed we are packing up our house and moving . Well I am moving over to his region. I really hate the thought of living there and all I will lose and miss but it is done deal.. I stopped asking for help..with relocating it just made him angry. He would come and look at apartments with me but was always in foul mood so I stopped. With the move I just wrote a short email about all I had to do . He then volunteered to take a week to participate. I think the mistake I made was knowing he always liked to help I set up opportunities to help me.. which is manipulative I see now. I also took on board that he does not like me... or why would he hurt me so badly. So my mantra has become remember he does not like you. It is making detachment easier. I have not texted or emailed this week.. well one email when I needed a translation of a letter for a speeding fine ! so then his texts become longer, he explains why he did not call when it was arranged. ? Texted and called.. weird.
but I need to remember he does not like me, does not care about me.. H e says he cares but I don't think he does .. otherwise why would he be having an affair..
so advice.. How do I handle this week together.. packing make me sad.. me crying makes him run away ( really he is such a coward.. I would like to call him on that..may e later) I think I am still open to thinking about another relationship with him.. one day.. butnot anything like this marriage. If he truly is what he is now then the last 14 years were a lie and I don't want that
advice here would reallyhelp I feel like this is a chance to show that the issuez he had with me are changing.. a lot of me really wants him to see what he has lost..is that vindictive?
