Saving my family - Part 12

[Scorp7]

Ok, here is the REALLY difficult part of staying patient at this point. Some may say I'm reading too much into things but here's what I know (or at least what I've observed and been told).

My W has been texting another guy everyday. My kids have observed this and it's been going on since January, at the least. She is all over the guys facebook page and he is on her's. My kids tell me she has brought baking over to his house with them in the vehicle. The guy lives a block away from where my W is living with her parents.

There's nothing I can do if my W is truly involved with this guy. I don't know for sure if she is or isn't. I'd say at the least there is a possibility that she is.

My head tells me I need to keep doing what I've been doing, working on making me the best version of myself I can be. I've done well with my GAL, my band is up and running again, I'm in great shape physically and I think my W has noticed that I look pretty good these days. My heart on the other hand is breaking thinking about my W throwing away any chance of our family being together in exchange for being with someone else.

I'm a long way from being detached. I do better with that for short periods of time and then seem to fall backwards.

There are a ton of you on here that have dealt with this type of sitch so any input on how to cope with this would be great. I want to still leave the door open for my W and the possibility of a R in the future. It does sometimes feel like I'm being a fool thinking that way.